Archive for the ‘needs’ category

Indigo children need respect

April 7, 2013

How can we offer these children a happy and healthy childhood?

 

Children can learn from responsible adults to take responsibility for their own behaviour. They do not benefit from being blamed for the trauma and stress that result from not being accepted as they are. They need support and not diagnosis and medication! They thrive when adults show that they love and understand them and when their basic childhood needs are met.

 

Our experience as a child is different, from the experiences these kids have. Therefore we cannot deal with them as our parents have dealt with us. Instead of putting them on drugs and force them to function according to old standards, we certainly can provide alternatives. Ritalin is not a substitute for better schools, creative teaching and parents who spend more time with their children. The number of children that are put on Ritalin increases enormously and we can only imagine what damage is done on these children.  Can we afford to be arrogant and ignorant instead of being open for changes? These children are the adults of the future. Let’s make them fit, rather than destroy them and make them unfit for life.

 

According to Dr. Mary Ann Block, author of “No More Ritalin: Treating ADHD without drugs” observations, the right brain is stronger in these children. These children are stronger in visual, creative, artistic, physical and geographical perception. Our education system is, however, concentrating on the left brain. This can only go wrong. The children of the new generation will always have problems with that kind of learning. These children have no chance to survive in the current school system. And this is again proof that we urgently need to change our school system.

 

Block also said that these children tend to be to be the tactile learners. This means that their leading learning system is “doing” rather than “seeing or hearing” and their brains do not easily process visual and auditory information. The children continue to try to learn as best as they can. Due to their tactile learning style, they tend to play with their pencil and poke their neighbours to have contact. However, in the current system they are perceived as intruders or as learning disabled, although they only trying to learn in the manner that works for them. It would be easy to support the tactile learning style that these children can learn. All they need is to touch something and that would be achieved with a soft ball they can knead. Addressing the sense of touch would support their acoustic and visual learning. This can also reduce unacceptable, hyperactive behavior. Because such children often do not listen, it’s easy to call them by name, or to touch them just to get their attention.

 

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Compassion

February 9, 2013


This weekend, practice the big “C” (Compassion) starting with yourself! When we chill out and take it easy on ourselves we can take it easy on each other and they, in turn, will respond in kind! The New Moon in Aquarius on Saturday offers us the opportunity to untangle and taking it all so personally and the beginning of seeing life events as just the events that happen and we go on.

You might get impulsive in your thinking and speaking. The same time it is a great opportunity to break through into spiritual Nirvana. You might get in mood to send out emails, network or meet people. You may get spaced out. Try not to get into addiction.

It can be a very healing time if you do not get carried away. Breathe deeply into your belly to settle in your body or in the upper chest to lift you up. Just depends what you need.

It is a great time for writing down your dreams. Stay centred and avoid getting into the rat race. Do not suppress your feelings as now you can see deeper into your issues which you can finish or release.

Take the chances of this enlightening weekend which can bring up clearance and separation. Do not take things personally, no guilt or blaming yourself. Stop with the “I am not…” nor blame others. Get into the bigger picture and deal with your early childhood. From the time in the womb till the age of 7 is your formative time. Your subconscious mind swallowed all thoughts and feelings of your parents like a sponge.

You might feel that you did not get enough love from your parents and now you look for it in your partner. Your intense feelings of need he or she might have as well. The feelings of need harden yourself: “I do not allow that someone hurts me anymore, therefore it is better to live as a single.” Then your partner doesn’t feel needed nor loved.

By rejecting your natural needs you cut off your life forth.  Now it is time to soften and forgive yourself. Relax, breathe and soften. Look at the bigger picture and become aware what you are and what you can become when you start softening.

Whenever you define or diagnose something/ someone you get stuck in the situation. Do not jump on conclusions that prevent you and your partner from changes. Stop blaming and start to love yourself!

This is the Mantra of this week:


When I allow the world and myself to change,
Letting go of the guilt and all the self-blame,
I un-freeze the picture and release all the pressure,
Thereby discovering the buried treasure. 

Are you willing to lose?

July 22, 2012

One essential truth is that you must be willing to lose it all before you can have it all.

What does this mean? It means that until you can let go of everything, you will find it hard to hold onto anything.

 

Detachment is the key. If you are so attached to something that you are deeply unhappy without it, and then you are not simply attached, you are addicted.

 

You will not have to think but a second to know exactly why you received this message today.

 

Many people are addicted to our own habits and musts which are dictated from outside: job, generation, peer-group, society and advertisement.

 

Go and questions these musts! Here are just a few of them:

 

Is it necessary to drive a certain car because you have a certain job, even you hardly can afford it?

Is it necessary to wear certain brands just because the others do the same?

Is it really necessary to run your life constantly on high speed? Always overtaking others no matter what it costs.

Is it necessary to neglect your family just because your work has the only priority?

What would happen if you downsize your life in certain areas?

 

It could be

–      You start to enjoy life in a different way.

–      With the exercise of regular meditation you could be healthier.

–      Caring about yourself and your loved ones, makes you free to do a better job.

–      Letting go gives you mental freedom to love yourself and see the real values of life.

 

We can live a peaceful, happy and successful life when we take time and work with our blockages. They are the ones reducing quality of a fulfilled life. You notice that there is something missing, That is the reason to prevent that feeling and get addicted to some bad habits.

 

Do not be afraid to meet your chore needs and your feelings. When you start to look at your habits you encounter your blockages. Feeling what hurt you in your childhood is the first step to encounter your fears.

 

Fears and worries are the success killer no 1 for all areas of life. Fears have very often nothing to do with your current life. They are mostly the fear of your parents. You inherited these fears even pre birth.  Get rid of things which do not belong to you. They prevent you to live a happy and fulfilled life.

 

In times of crises when the chaos starts it might be necessary to let go of things or ideas which are no longer appropriate. There is no longer any security from outside.

You can only find or develop security inside you.

 

When you are willing to lose all only then you can receive all. Never ever forget that you have to give first before you can receive. Where there is no free room the is no space for new things.

 

Your Mantra this week

“As I am willing to let go, the Universe which is abundant is willing to give!”

 

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