Archive for the ‘control’ category

Life on the Fast Lane

June 17, 2012

Do you still want to continue a life with the handbrake remaining on the fast lane?  Do you want just to react instead of feeling yourself and your needs?
This way you cannot live any real relationship. You and your partner live side by side, you both go your way and emotionally you are separated from each other. You might only know the lives in the outside.
Most people even live their private life on the fast lane. It’s always about diverting attention from him and the crisis.  Do you know that? Party until you drop, extreme sports, travel, concerts, sporting events, etc. If you only live your life in the outside it brings you only deeper into your crisis.
As long as you are fighting your crisis and do not want to look at it, it can only get worse:  marriage and relationship crises, alcohol dependence, depression, burnout, cancer, stomach ulcers, etc.
If you dare to confront yourself with your feelings and injuries, this is like a rebirth with the appropriate labor pains. However, the result is just incredible. You will discover yourself and you can then live your relationships differently, because you have a relationship with yourself now! Who am I and what do I want? And why would I want to that? These are your most important questions.

 

And if you need support to look at them, find somebody who got experience with what you are going through!
So then the lonely life with the handbrake on the fast track at last ceases at last. To live a happy and successful life you need to stop to make your life and your happiness dependent on external things. Your fear of losing control is your brakes. Confront yourself with your fears! Because when you get to know your true needs, you also come down from the fast lane.

Discover the little child in you and its needs to live what was never allowed? What rules did your family have and everybody had to obey them? Every family has its history and its handling rules? Could you show your feelings, were they noticed or ignored? To look at it hurts. Go into the pain and let them go. It is dangerous to stay in pain, because then you go into depression.
It is not about blaming anyone. Your parents were able to give only what they have experienced or received from their parents. These rules are often in a family since generations. You now have the chance to break this vicious cycle. Get to know your needs and seize the opportunity of change. Try out what you is good for you and always take enough time for yourself only then you can relate to others in a more successful way. Connect to yourself! Stop to live a life on the outside, unless you know your inner life.
Realize what your crises are and then grow beyond. I support people in this process. Just dare to simply let the control go when you do not want to be the perfect slave for yourself and others.
I now invite you to discover yourself!

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Give Up Control

February 26, 2012

 Why is that so important? And why is it so difficult?

Most of us had good role models concerning control. Parents control their children and more of them even ignore them on the other side? You might ask “What is worse?”

You might even control your spouse and your co-workers. Just think about it and find out why you are so much interested what others do. Is this just because you do not know yourself or feel unworthy and never develop self-consciousness? Do you know your purpose and your goals?

Now why is it so important to give up control?

The most important reason is that we have to learn to build a better society as we cannot go on like that. You can see that we live in a critical time of change. As long as you resist changes you fight against yourself. You get sick, jobless and go into burnout and depression.

Most of us live in the 3-dimensional world which is school with different stages. Three quarter of the people live with a victim consciousness. You do not need to stay there as you can always change your thoughts.

Invest in yourself and live a life of love, joy, health and abundance you need to enhance your consciousness. Then you move on to the group of creators as you can create your reality. When you keep on learning you become a genius.

Learn to live from your heart with gratitude and love. We move out of the mind into the heart. It is about unity. We got to think with our heart, open ourselves for the inner voice and the inspirations we get while we wake up in the morning. I feel blessed that I follow my inspirations. No more need to live a life in fear and worries.

It is all about love, joy, smile and no more walls of separation. I am You and You are Me!

Therefore it is high time to find out what your purpose of life is. Work at your Goals and give up Control. If you really want to live a successful and fulfilled life leave the HOW to the Universe. It takes care as it is abundant. Work on your purpose and goals and add your feelings to your goals. That is how you learn to visualize what you really thrive for. Thrive for the truth which you find the moment you start thinking with your heart.

Embrace the Union!!! Get together with like minded people and set up cooperation to create a better world!

You find the practical e-book “ Goals Give Your Life Direction”  on Amazon

If you want to get out of fears check for “Success Killer No 1 – Fear  and Worries”