Archive for October 2010

How to get out of your personal crisis

October 30, 2010

When you are at the crossroad, where so many people are nowadays, you have to decide which way to follow. Many people are forced to take decisions concerning work, partner, children or their health. They feel deep inside that they have to make up their mind and change something. Remember : Time of  crisis is always time for opportunities!

Just yearning for a new way will not produce it. Only ending the old way can do that. As long as one door wants to be closed and you keep your foot in the door, because you need security or are unable to decide what you want, you keep going in circles. Be sure you close that door completely in order that the new door can open.

You cannot hold onto the old all the while declaring that you want something new. The old will defy the new; the old will deny the new; the old will decry the new.

There is only one way to bring in the new. You must make room for it. Learn to let go that  you make room for something new!

Are you still searching for Love?

October 15, 2010

Searching will not work as love is not what you want, it is what you are. It is very important to not get these two confused.

If you think that love is what you want, you will go searching for it all over the place. And you will stay in the momentum of searching. If you think love is what you are, you will go sharing it all over the place. The second approach will cause you to find what the searching will never reveal.


Normally two hungry people are looking for each other. As both do not have love inside off them and love themselves completely, they are not able to give love. After the first honeymoon that is reality. Two searching individuals and they cannot get what they are hungry for as both are empty. And then we wonder why most relationships are not functioning.


Yet you cannot give love in order to get it. Doing that is as much as saying you do not now have it. And that statement will, of course, be your reality. Instead you must give love because you have it to give. In this will you experience your own possession of it.


How can you start loving yourself?


Realize why you came to this world and that there is a higher reason to be here.

If you know your reason you can appreciate your life and yourself.


Start in the morning when you see yourself in the mirror. Great yourself, address yourself with your name and wish yourself a wonderful day and say “Jane I love you deeply and completely” and smile at yourself.


You have to love yourself and fill yourself with love to be able to share love. Remember you cannot share anything which you do not possess.